tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11075162.post7885871177264271584..comments2023-12-22T06:30:40.408-05:00Comments on In Te Speravi: On Good Friendships and Inaccurate AssumptionsClaire Christinahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00356741555403954008noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11075162.post-9696113877133318762010-02-28T20:15:00.156-05:002010-02-28T20:15:00.156-05:00So I was recently talking to Rach about the way we...So I was recently talking to Rach about the way we love intensely, even when we know that the relationship in which we are loving intensely is bound to change substantially by distance. She wondered if perhaps it could be unnatural to love with as much fervor as we do. I simply countered that we live our lives for Our Lord; it would be unnatural to love any less than we do.<br /><br />We love intensely, fully, and completely, my dear. It's a grace granted to us that other people simply don't understand. You are not revealing your own weaknesses in the value you place upon your friendships, but rather your strengths.Annehttp://graziososeguace.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11075162.post-81997750861812920082010-02-16T00:21:01.874-05:002010-02-16T00:21:01.874-05:00Great post! Well written.
C.S. Lewis was, of c...Great post! Well written. <br /><br />C.S. Lewis was, of course, wrong.<br /><br />Eros is equally unnecessary, although eros is not willful in the same sense that friendship is willed.<br /><br />But eros is not "lust" or even legitimate physical desire. Eros is completely unnecessary for children. If were, merely for convenience of course, to adopt a tripartite division of the soul, the sexual urge would reside in the vegetative part, eros is the vital, and friendship in the rational. Strictly speaking, one only needs the vegetative to survive. And, if one were to look merely at the modern sexual man, one could conclude that the gratification of the sexual urge completely suppress erotic desire.<br /><br />Maybe C.S. Lewis was not so wrong, however. <br /><br />The erotic might not be necessary to produce children, but how men, with eros lacking, would commit themselves to stay with the same woman who conceives his children?<br /><br />Sad commentary on men, perhaps.totustuusmariahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08459544262379455570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11075162.post-29714362487645077712010-02-11T14:07:01.454-05:002010-02-11T14:07:01.454-05:00I'm a lot less affectionate to my female frien...I'm a lot less affectionate to my female friends than I used to be, mainly because of these types of misunderstandings. I'm terribly socially blind, and poor at gauging what I'm broadcasting to whom, so I generally err on the side of caution -- especially now that I'm married. When I was single and unattached, I was a bit freer about what others might think about my interests/relationships with a member of the opposite sex, because even if someone incorrectly thought I might be pining for a young lady, as long as *she* knew that wasn't the case, no harm done.Aaron Traashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08583767829520077167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11075162.post-24461253057584621252010-02-01T23:58:11.155-05:002010-02-01T23:58:11.155-05:00Well, it's interesting to hear the crush &...Well, it's interesting to hear the crush & storytelling dilemmas from the other side. I think it happens to all of us in varying degrees.<br /><br />KevinThe KEC Masterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08558312825790518660noreply@blogger.com